Happy Sunday and Why Did I Wait Until I Was 33 to Get Married (And what was the point of being faithful?)

Wanna Date?

Oh, what are you talking about, Ken, you might say. It was wise to sow your oats and wait until you were really ready, smart, you say.

I always thought that it was best to wait, not rush in to marriage. Wait until I was READY (what ever that means). Don't do what so many fools did and ruin their 20s by getting married and having a child or two or three and then get divorced by the ripe old age of, say, 33 and worn out and angry and bitter. No, I knew better than that.

Well, BULLSHIT.


WHAT I HAVE LEARNED: True, it seems to really not be a good thing to marry young and get divorced in your 30s. So much energy in your 20s it is amazing what you can do! And to waste it on crappy relationships and money troubles and children and pressure is the last thing that was on my mind. But..........

You get it over with. Done. You go out in your 30s and your children are getting older and you are then in your early 40s and you, hopefully have learned at least who you want. By the time you are 40, if you had children in your 20s they are 13-18, then you know that you will be in your 50s and 60s and have children around, the (required by law?) second marriage and you even have a chance to blow that one and still be in your late 40s and go for THREE Marriages!

Instead, I wait, find someone who seems fine at first and slowly turns. Okay, it happens. But after 22 years with someone, with no children, the last few years really a study in my being a totally whipped idiot, all in the name of love and getting older.

I stuck it out. If it were 20 years from 22, I would have a chance. Now, it is the time I start to think about being in my 50s and alone. I know there are many of you out there who are, but I am still in a state of shock over this separation and going out and dating. And it change my mind about things. Yup, you were right, whoever you are, doing what "everyone" said was wrong. In the end, who are we but who we are with?

Maybe I will get "lucky" again. Who really knows? I was complacent, thought I was set, thought that people go through stuff and she will go through it, too. Ahh, well, so much for that. Happy Sunday!